Living From The Heart
As children, before conditioning, we radiate love and openness to life. We live more presently with gratitude in every moment. We look at life with so much appreciation and joy. It’s pure living from the heart without interference of the mind. As adults, we are quick to forget this inner child and how we once viewed the world. Perhaps it’s due to conditioning or unhealed painful experiences that lead to hardening of the heart. The hardening of the heart creates a disconnect within from our true self, leading to voids with an endless thirst.
Here are a few things to ponder on. When was the last time you laughed like a little child? When was the last time you had a good ole belly laugh, where your sides hurt from laughing so much? In some Zen/Buddhist teachings, a deep belly laugh is used as a release, leading to a healing from physical and mental imbalances. It works wonders with awakening passion for life and for increasing overall happiness. Embracing our inner child allows for a more authentic self to come out and play in this game called life.
Free mind, open heart…
As we go back to living from the heart, we live more presently with a childlike essence. We become free from stories and past pains. In this we shift from our mind as our primary source of guidance. The mind becomes free as the stories are no longer its point of focus. Think about how you might perceive things without critical judgments, past stories, or past pain. How would you feel about yourself and others? It’s complete freedom from the attachment to our stories. This includes things such as labels, illness and how we identify with our self.
If we continue to project from our past we create more of the like experiences. To think differently, we must be willing to let go of all that we know, to step outside of our own box. The heart welcomes this, but at first the mind might freak out as it attempts to grasp onto what it knows – the old paradigm of beliefs and programs. However with practice the mind becomes free, as though it was holding itself as its own prisoner. Often it comes through in layers as we practice living more presently – repetition is key here.
There are people in your life that will attempt to bring you down or be overly critical of you for your own light. Those that are critically judgmental towards others are most critical of themselves. Often it stems from their own unconscious projections that help them feel better about their situation. Pain reflects pain, just as love reflects love. Whatever our point of focus is continues to expand. We tend to project from our own pain until we realize the source is within our own unconscious. If someone is projecting, what they really need is compassion.
This does not mean to tolerate abuse, but to exercise compassion and choose differently, take a different path. Often their behavior is tied to their own shadows but our focus upon that keeps us in avoidance of our shadows. Our shadows if avoided, will eventually consume us through endless distractions, often leading to self-destruction. This is where shadow work comes into play. Anytime we are looking outwardly in a critical fashion, by redirecting our focus within we will unmask our own shadows. As we do this we change. As we change we become free from the associated limitations, addictions, and inner conflict.
Practice expressing “you” as you are, beyond what you think yourself to be. Embrace that child-like curiosity which invokes a more present mind. Often the limitations are due to not feeling good enough, which causes us to seek validation from external sources. Imagine yourself being good enough as you are, right now. What we imagine, we impress our unconscious mind with. The unconscious mind does not know the difference between what is ‘real’ and what is imagined. It accepts what is felt. As children we imagine all the time, but as adults it seems that for many, our imaginative aspect gets suppressed. Through imaginative repetition we change those “not-good-enough” impressions from childhood experiences (and false perceptions). Doing this helps bring love to your inner child which brings forth a deeper healing within.
Another technique that works wonders is to look at yourself in a mirror with a fixed gaze upon your eyes as you say sternly, “I LOVE YOU” and repeat this daily until it becomes heartfelt. This awakens a deep inner freedom of the heart, allowing it to expand – which is really what the heart desires. We try to control it, restrict or condition it, and that is a sure path to inner conflict. Find other ways to embrace your inner child-like nature and exercise them daily. My honey and I remain quite playful throughout our days and it is so liberating. We are either sneaking up on each other, tickling each other, or coming up with new child-like games that leave us laughing so hard our stomachs ache like we’ve completed 1000 sit-ups. It’s liberating, freeing, and completely open. Find what works for you and have fun with it. Do what you can to incorporate play in your day-to-day functions. Try it out for a month and notice how differently you feel. Notice your energy levels and your creativity.
Wisdom of the heart…
The heart has a wisdom to it that comes through us as a deep knowing from within. It’s often referred to as intuition, a hunch, or a gut feeling. This will most likely defy logic, so if we’re looking for a logical explanation, chances are we will miss it altogether. It goes beyond that, a deep feeling that rises up from within as it continues to try and get our attention. The mind just needs to be present enough to notice (and acknowledge) it, until your intuitive voice becomes stronger. Our intuitive muscle is strengthened by the acknowledgment and authority that it is given. A daily practice of silence, even just a few minutes a day will reveal so much on the inner workings of the mind, as it opens the heart and expands our intuition. This is true strength, living through the heart. It’s the result of being open and vulnerable, doing the shadow work, embracing our inner child and living more presently.
Until next time,