Recently, I was discussing the topic of true love with a friend and they mentioned they had never experienced true love. They questioned if it even existed and if it did what it looked like. The discussion led to love being an illusion, which is interesting because if we are using the intellect to get there we might come to that conclusion.
What is true love to you?
To me, true love is complete freedom of authentic self-expression. The ability to fully express oneself honestly and authentically without concern. This starts with unconditional acceptance of all aspects of the self. We must experience true love with the self first, so that we can understand and expand upon it with another. So… how do we get there?
An experience of true love must start from within, by falling completely in love with our self. It’s conditioning that has caused us to forget who we really are. As we embrace all aspects of ourselves unconditionally, and feel into the depths of our being, we start having experiences that lead us down a path of inner discovery and freedom. These experiences lead us into the self, a process of discovery and unconditional acceptance. In this complete self-acceptance, we find a release of all internal value judging and self-condemnation. Freedom is the outcome.
Love is freedom…
Love to me is complete freedom. The minute we try to contain it, control it, or attach to it – we experience pain. Its natural state is expansion, and when we attempt to control it we find limitations. It is you dropping into you and embracing all aspects of your being, as you then exercise it through self-expression. Through authentic self-expression we tap into the core of who and what we are. In doing this, we awaken this deep infinitely expanding unconditional love from within.
This is true love for the self and once we experience this within we become able to recognize it in another. It’s the art of finding your true love within yourself, which is really an inner harmony, so that you can then expand upon that with another. When two people come together with their own self-love, they experience something very deep in life. This is satori.
Until next time,